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Acceptance is a noun?

I have recently been struggling with accepting certain things in my life. To be honest, in my mind everything I wish for should just happen because well, I'm me... In my rainbows and unicorns universe, a positive loving outcome is the only one that is acceptable. No matter how dark or dreary things get, I am seeing my rainbow and watching my unicorn dance! Now at this point, I am positive you believe I am insane and well, I just might be according to your standards. (Full disclosure, I truly understand the world is not full of rainbows and unicorns. It  is just a lot easier to deal with those of us in this universe that opt out of being considerate, kind and treating everyone with love. I believe we all have our coping mechanisms for the in-explainable circumstances other place us in, this is just mine). With all of the aforementioned details about my struggle with acceptance in mind, I had chosen to believe accepting situations, people and places for what they were was a necessi
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Being A Bonus Parent Part 2

I had an awesomely interesting conversation with a woman today who was married for almost 10 years and her husbands children had no idea. Both of their families knew but they chose to exclude the husband's children in knowing or celebrating anything that had to do with their marriage. it wasn't until the funeral that the children found out. While they were shocked, what they could not say was that their father treated them any differently than before he married his wife. The reason for the silence? They wanted to avoid drama in their marriage and knew that his children's mother would make it difficult for the children to freely be able to spend time with their father and it would raise feelings in their mother of why not marry me. Most people would've said WOW and be in shock thinking, 'How could someone do that to their children?' I was actually inspired and thought for a moment, why didn't my husband and I do that? You see, when my husband and I announce
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Let's Talk About Being A Bonus Parent

I belong to a coveted "Step Mom" group that allows bonus moms from all stages to comment, vent, encourage and talk off of a ledge the other bonus moms in the group. It is truly 100% honesty from every person that posts and I absolutely LOVE that! While I have found myself reading some posts at times and saying to myself, "I wish my situation was like that!' I recognize that each family has chosen what works best based on their specific situation. Being a bonus child to two bonus moms adds to my unique perspective on what being a bonus parent is and sometimes causes me to feel sad that my current situation was not like the one I had growing up. I truly believe it is the sincere love that my husband and I have for each other that allows me to face the battles and struggles of being a bonus mom with as much grace as possible. What is the title "Bonus Parent". It is not what my bonus children's mother explained to them which was ignorantly that 
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