Let's Talk With L. A.

I have recently been struggling with accepting certain things in my life. To be honest, in my mind everything I wish for should just happen because well, I'm me... In my rainbows and unicorns universe, a positive loving outcome is the only one that is acceptable. No matter how dark or dreary things get, I am seeing my rainbow and watching my unicorn dance! Now at this point, I am positive you believe I am insane and well, I just might be according to your standards. (Full disclosure, I truly understand the world is not full of rainbows and unicorns. It  is just a lot easier to deal with those of us in this universe that opt out of being considerate, kind and treating everyone with love. I believe we all have our coping mechanisms for the in-explainable circumstances other place us in, this is just mine). With all of the aforementioned details about my struggle with acceptance in mind, I had chosen to believe accepting situations, people and places for what they were was a necessi

I had an awesomely interesting conversation with a woman today who was married for almost 10 years and her husbands children had no idea. Both of their families knew but they chose to exclude the husband's children in knowing or celebrating anything that had to do with their marriage. it wasn't until the funeral that the children found out. While they were shocked, what they could not say was that their father treated them any differently than before he married his wife. The reason for the silence? They wanted to avoid drama in their marriage and knew that his children's mother would make it difficult for the children to freely be able to spend time with their father and it would raise feelings in their mother of why not marry me. Most people would've said WOW and be in shock thinking, 'How could someone do that to their children?' I was actually inspired and thought for a moment, why didn't my husband and I do that? You see, when my husband and I announce